If there’s one thing that’s been lingering on my mind a lot, since having my daughter, it’s my determination to show her that it’s okay to be comfortable in your own skin.
There’s nothing more heartbreaking to me, than to see someone who doesn’t have a high self esteem & one, that was crushed by her own family.
It’s a domino effect, you see. It starts with the comments made as a baby: “oh, what are you feeding this baby?! He/She is huge.” Then: “Look at those chunky thighs. Haven’t they started walking? They should be slimming down.” Oh, then we hit the school age. More comments start pouring in. So, what happens? From drilling your child so much on their weight & appearance they become so self conscious that they aren’t even comfortable in their own skin.
I think back to when I was growing up, my parents or family weren’t ones to comment on my weight or my appearance. I can say, I am lucky. I didn’t have to endure that mental & emotional beat down. I feel comfortable in my own skin, even with the little baby weight I have left over post-pregnancy. I am fine with it.
Others, I know haven’t been so lucky. It’s a constant battle for them. I see the hurt & the suffering they go through.
I don’t think parents & family realize the long lasting damage a comment of the sort can cause. It’s bad enough that society already instills certain criteria of how one should appear. Why allow people so close cause more harm? As the saying goes, if you form have anything nice to say. Don’t say anything at all.
I want to be able to show my daughter that it’s okay to love your body, and be comfortable in your own skin. I can’t expect anyone else to teach her this. Because it all starts with me.
Years before I had my daughter, you could say I had the worst immune system. Not that its any different today, but hey its much better than ever before. Growing up with asthma & allergies it made certain seasons unbearable. When my asthma was triggered, off to the hospital I’d go. I would come back with a diagnoses of bronchitis or pneumonia. 1997, was the last time I had a flare up.
A few years ago, I felt like death. I was taking everything readily available over the counter. I felt the onset of my asthma. Then came a nasty cough. NyQuil, DayQuil, even RX codeine, couldn’t break the cough. I had to go back in to see my doctor. I was sent home with a nebulizer & antibiotics. If I knew then what I knew now; I wouldn’t have dealt with such symptoms for so long.
Fast forward to having my daughter. Boy, did I ever feel so restricted. As a breast feeding mother, I couldn’t take over the counter medication. Its as if I was being taunted, having the medicine in my face & I couldn’t have any of it. I was feeling so ill. At some point I did think about just giving up breastfeeding. I’ll just take something for a few days & I will be good to go. Then the fear of the medication going through the breast milk or fear of having my supply decrease set in. I couldn’t bring myself to take anything.
Sleepless nights turned into nights of research. I came across a plant with a berry. The Sambucus Nigra plant, also known as Black Elderberry. This is such a powerful berry. Full of antioxidants & flavonoids. It may have anticancer, antiviral & anti-inflammatory properties. Why hadn’t I or my mom ever come across this years ago? It’s been used for hundreds of years in the aide of flu/cold. Studies showed that it was effective in treating most strains of flus & people recovered much faster, as soon as they started on Black Elderberry Syrup. The icing on the cake was when I found out I was able to take it while breast feeding. A minimal amount is passed through the breast milk. Your little one gets a boost to their immune system. I have been sick twice since having my daughter. Each time I feel like I’m coming down with something, off to my medicine cabinet I go. I can vouch for it, by saying that it does shorten the course of a cold/flu.
With the cold and flu running rampant from East to West across the US, will you be adding this to your medicine cabinet soon?
It’s been a long time coming. I have returned to the blogging world. Quite honestly, I missed it. I must admit though that I had lost some inspiration along the way & tumblr just wasn’t doing it for me anymore.
This rather long hiatus gave me a lot of time to brainstorm. It also allowed me to regain some inspiration & see the world in a different light. I now feel that I have so much to share with you all. I hope that you are just as excited as I am to venture on this journey with me.